If you are new to internet dating, you will avoid some disappointment and hurt feelings when you understand a common mistake that many singles make on internet dating sites. Find out how common courtesy could correct this mistake and improve everyone’s online dating experience.
What is the online dating mistake that many singles make?
They don’t reply to emails sent from potential matches on dating sites.
This behavior is rude, as it may unwittingly hurt the feelings of the person who sent a heartfelt email in the hope of starting communication.
While I’m not condoning this common mistake, I’d like you to understand the common reasons why some some subscribers don’t respond to emails from fellow subscribers:
Popular subscribers often receive dozens of email inquiries each day — too many to answer unless it’s your job.
Busy professionals may not have time or interest to read and reply to each email they receive.
Some subscribers delete emails without a photo posted or without a great photo that speaks to them.
Some subscribers may notice spelling mistakes in your emails and think you’re a sloppy thinker.
Some may think your use of ALL CAPS SOUNDS LIKE SHOUTING OR DESPERATION.
Some may think that your love of cats is a turn off because they love dogs.
Some may be wanting more children and you wrote that you didn’t want more children.
Some may think you sound too boring or too adventurous to fit into their lifestyle.
Some may not like your hometown and you wrote that you won’t relocate.
Some are seeking a dark-haired match with dark eyes and you’re a blonde with blue eyes.
There are countless reasons why a dating site subscriber will not reply to your email or see you as their love match. Their reasons reflect a sorting process that each subscriber uses to search for a compatible match.
The purpose of exchanging emails on internet dating sites is to find your best love match–not to communicate with everyone who contacts you.
A savvy approach to online dating is to devote your time and energy in finding and communicating with a match who shows a mutual interest in getting to know each other.
No reply simply means no interest. Nothing personal. You’re simply one step closer to meeting your best match.
A healthy dating attitude is to think, NEXT, and keep searching for your mutual match among other wonderful singles on dating sites. This resilient, optimistic attitude gives you the persistence to keep searching until you find your mutual match.
How can we correct this common mistake?
If every dating site subscriber would send a polite “No, Thank You” in response to each email inquiry that doesn’t fit their dating criteria, this common courtesy could improve everyone’s online dating experience.